What about all the goodies?

Now don’t get me wrong I want the stuff too. I want to live in a beautiful house overlooking the ocean, a brand new car that is environmentally friendly, beautiful clothes, holidays in exotic places; just being able to buy whatever I want whenever I want it! For me having a spiritually based life isn’t all about being the light and love or being a selfless guru that has no need for possessions. If I wanted that I would become a Buddhist monk and that is not the path for me.

I do want the stuff of life and I have spent plenty of years pursuing the means to make the money to acquire the ‘stuff’. I would get some ‘stuff’ but I slowly realised the buzz from having fun objects didn’t last that long, it wasn’t long before I wanted something else to give me the ‘buzz’ or make me happy, which I slowly realised was the underlying desire. I have now spent many years questioning and self investigating my so called needs and desires. Why do I really want ‘some thing’? And yes I decided there was nothing wrong with the desiring of fun things, I did receive pleasure from the latest Apple Mac product; it’s a lot of fun to buy a new pair of shoes and feel more socially acceptable by having the goodies.

So what am I really saying here. What I have discovered is I have desires but I don’t need the goodies to make me happy, I can be happy without the stuff, I don’t need the stuff to feel complete, happy or worthy. Also I can get obsessed with things I find beautiful or something I think I need. I have an ‘I need it now’ personality. ‘No time like the present’, ‘if not now when’ stuff can go on in my head. So I have observed that I only ‘think’ I need something, I convince myself that I need something. Recognising this behaviour at all?!

Like I have said before, I am, as much as I am aware, living my life as my own experiement. I like to observe my desires, thoughts, feelings and actions, I challenge my desires and needs. I only take action to buy something when it feels right, when I have totally aligned with my desire that it feels natural to have it, not needy. Now this can be an instant feeling when I am shopping and go yes, it feels great for me to give this to myself or buy a gift for someone else. Other things take longer for me to align with. There are many reasons for this, I may be dealing with money issues, I am accessing whether I really do need to have this item or if I want it for dysfunctional reasons, like I need to make myself feel good because I am feeling some sort of lack within myself.

Now all of the above are good enough reasons to make me buy something that I want, but like I said before it won’t last. I want the sort of happiness that lasts, that doesn’t need to be constantly fed by something outside of myself, that isn’t dependent on an object or a person because sooner rather than later they will let me down, they won’t continue to make me feel happy or even good. The loss of them will disappoint me or make me feel sad! So instead of being the victim to the ‘stuff’ of life why not just appreciate them when they are here; enjoy the people, places and objects of life when we have them. Needing anything or anyone can be painful and personally I never like feeling like that. I don’t need to be detached from things outside of myself, I just want to gain a healthy perspective about it all. I want to allow them in and let them go when it is time. I want to appreciate how useful my things are. Having things come because I love beauty and usefulness. Interesting enough when I get to a place of not needing something the means to attain seem to appear or the object itself.

Another consideration is the price I am paying to have the goodies. People (not me) spend their whole lives working in jobs they don’t enjoy to buy things for themselves or their families; spending 6 days working and stressing to enjoy 1 day a week or only 3 weeks a year. Yes they might have the latest gadgets but are not present enough to really enjoy them, or are too stressed and tired to value the people they love. I could go on about all of that but no need. I just want to say question what is behind the needs and desires; get in touch with how you feel about life and the ‘stuff’ you think you need!

Lost In Space

Today I was chatting to a friend. We were talking about not being able to identify with any particular role in life. I said it was like floating in outer space, in a space suit that has a line attached to a space ship. We are floating around out there, not doing or being anyone in particular; feeling kind of free but a bit lost and confused sometimes; feeling lighter and more spacious than everyone else in the space ship. We can see the people in the space ship, they are busy doing their stuff or 'important' roles in life; they are looking towards us every now and then, waving at us and feeling sorry for us floating around out there! I must admit we were laughing and laughing just at the imagery of it all.

This analogy is about moving away from the 'grid' so to speak. Not fitting into the mold, not identifying with any particular role that we were conditioned to fit into. For many years I thought life went a particular way. Grew up, got married, had kids, lived happy ever after....... well not to be for me! First part yeah that was great, then the cracks started to appear, I was able to fool myself that I was on the road to 'happy ever after' when I gave birth to my adorable children and just loved the role of mother. So I got divorced and then I started to seek the 'happy ever after' in numerous other ways, a new man - wrong; business - wrong; sell the house and invest - wrong; more business ideas - wrong; maybe something creative - wrong!!!! How many 'wrong' decisions can a girl make!

After a decade or so insights started to appear, 'aha' moments were the most significant things in my life! Now I am totally at peace with 'being busy doing nothing'. I thought I needed to be something or someone, I thought my only significance was in what I have and do. Well when none of that got me anywhere I started to question what I wanted from identifying with a role. I wanted to be valued, to feel worthy, the security that came from having, I wanted to be respected, loved, noticed; again the list goes on. Then I started to pay attention to those that had, did and were something or someone, they didn't seem much happier than me! They were still chasing something to identify with or someone to make them happy. I realised the significance I was seeking was fleeting, it wasn't long before one had to seek something to be significant through, over and over and over!

After a lot of soul searching I now realise if I sit still for a moment, feel the sensations in my body, look out the window at the sky, trees and birds being, this is a reflection of my own significance. Without the sky, air, trees, birds etc. I wouldn't exist, then if I didn't exists I wouldn't be able to look at the birds, sky, air etc. and I wouldn't notice their significance. Yes all very cosmic but if you sit still and allow the moment to be as it is, you will realise that nothing has to happen for 'what is' to be of value; to be something so beautiful and amazing. The fact that it all exists is significant enough for me to be content with not really knowing who I am anymore. Not needing to identify with a world that mostly looks like it has gone insane. Not needing to achieve anything in life other than appreciating the smell of a flower, seeing the beauty of a sunset, feeling the drops on my face of the first rain of summer.

I am not denying the creative prompts or a desire to experience oneself in life through something, that is great, that is the call of 'Source' as Abraham/Hicks would say. It is when we are seeking an identity through what is outside of ourselves that we can come unstuck; lose confidence in who we are; when that creative prompt stops for a while and we diminish our self worth in the eyes of the world. When we stop getting the buzz from the process and start needing the acknowledgment through achievement. That is when we have lost sight of our true purpose in life.

For me the true purpose of life is to live in joy, no matter what I am doing, being or having. To celebrate the fact that I exist on this beautiful planet and can see all these other expressions of 'source' energy that are all unique in their own expression of 'life' or existence. To be open to what comes next, knowing it is all perfect, (you) will never get it done and there is nowhere to get. Enjoy!!!!

Great quote and pic by 'Rasha'

It's Not Personal, it's Universal!!!???

For me, right now, I view everything as significant to my growth, or rather, an opportunity to move beyond a pattern or dis-functional belief. I know I have taken something personal when I have a negative reaction. I was talking to some beautiful young woman (one being my daughter) the other day and I had one of those 'aha' moments. I realised that if I react to a situation or person negatively I am releasing some old emotional 'stuff'; I realised if I was truly in a loving space there is no way I could have negative thoughts or responses about another, or blame them for what they said or did. I believe when I get to the stage of not needing to change the 'other' or take personally an other's process I will have let go off past emotional baggage. I will be able to be with an other's process and feeling nothing but allowing and acceptance; I wouldn't need to blame, punish or reject; I wouldn't feel hurt or rejected by their processing.

Just the same as I wouldn't like to think I am being punished or blamed or rejected for my unconscious behavior towards others that have crossed my path. I have done and said some terrible things to the people I love, from a place of pain. If I reflect on these times in the past, which I rarely do, I almost felt a bit insane. The parts of me that were inflicting pain felt pain. As Abraham/Hicks says "nobody that is in their true power could ever inflict pain on a fellow human being", or words to that effect. I can look back on things I have done in my past and wondered 'what was I thinking'; some things I have no relationship to at all 'now' and have no idea where those actions were coming from. If I could go back in time I would never do or say what I said to hurt others and yes I may still be doing this to others now and my intention now would be to put some space between me and an other's pain body; now it may be more like self protection and yes perhaps in the past it was self protection also. The difference with now is I am so much more aware of what I am feeling and can accept responsibility for what I am feeling and I don't need to have bad thoughts towards the so called 'perpetrator'. I can even see how perhaps my behavior led me to put myself in such a situation; I can diffuse my emotions enough to be allowing in the moment, yes it is a skill that takes some practice but it is achievable. I can allow myself to fail as well and get taken over by my reactions or emotions.

I can accept that I am a 'universal being' in the process of becoming more; I can accept that everyone else is a 'universal being' in the process of becoming more. All those so called 'awful' moments in my life have made me a better person, well I think so and I am pretty sure those who love me would say the same and they are the only opinions that really count to me. I can get it wrong and still feel connected to something bigger because everything is an opportunity to be more loving towards 'self' and 'other'.

Inspirational thoughts and image by 'Rasha'.

Change your vibration (response), not the situation

So life exists in the moment, this being established, I am presenting the belief that what I may react to in the moment was unfinished business from the past. What I mean by this is when we are young we are usually dependent on others for our well being; we are not necessarily empowered in respect to our decisions about our likes and dislikes, usually we are told what to think, feel and do by adults and other more dominant children. It is only natural that at times we were not happy about these choices others were making for us. We mostly felt either unhappy, angry, dis-empowered, bullied etc. etc., the list goes on. Many belief systems go on to say these memories or beliefs I took on as a child are formed into patterns and we just go on repeating these modes of behaviour for the rest of our lives. Father/mother stuff with our partners, authority issues with the establishment, just to name a couple!

This is what I am calling 'unfinished business'. So in the moment I am reacting or projecting onto others and my circumstances from the same place, I reacted to, all those years ago when I was a child. I just keep repeating these scenarios over and over. These are not the same circumstances, I have grown up for one, I can choose a different response but......... only if I am aware of the pattern, the feeling of being dis-empowered in the present, the feeling that my buttons are being pushed; I then get to choose how I respond to this. Yes, like we have heard before, it all takes practice; accepting responsibility for what I am now creating in my life.

I would like to take this one step further and say that present upsets are an opportunity to release the past. That there is absolutely nothing wrong with reacting in the moment, it is necessary to release past hurts and old outdated beliefs. What we do have to pay attention to is when we then project those past responses onto the person or present situation. When we become unconscious to what we are experiencing in the moment. Sometimes we may need to process this in the privacy of our own thoughts and feelings, or become aware of what is going on when we have time to reflect.

My own investigation has lead me to see the biggest issue we may be dealing with is insecurity. Now it is easy to see in life nothing outside of ourselves can make us secure. You only have to watch the news to know nothing can make us secure. The only constant in life is change, it is inevitable in every area of our lives. We loose loved ones, we loose jobs, we loose homes, friends, parents, again the list goes on. How do we feel secure in an ever changing, insecure existence? Well I put my trust in a higher source, the only thing that makes sense to me. I am doing this now but I have spent decades trying to make my life secure. The more I tried the worse it got. Now Abraham/Hicks would call this "going upstream" and they go on to say "nothing you want is upstream". So this is one indicator that you are making life more difficult; if you are trying to make something happen, you can feel that it is hard; you feel frustrated, angry and upset because no one or thing is doing what you want it to do to make you feel secure.

Now I am proposing you change your vibration or response, not the situation or person you are trying to change or resist. Just like 7 of 9 and the Borg from Star Trek Voyager says "resistance is futile". No need to resist 'what is', allow yourself to feel the emotions and then you can change how you respond to the 'upsets' of life.

So to summerise, we are reacting to something or someone in the present, this is an opportunity to release some past emotion or a false belief we formed, then we have affected the outcome of our future. When we let go of a past pattern we become empowered, this creates a new vibration in the moment that effects what appears in our future.

Some of the things I have changed for myself. I now have a fantastic hairdresser; I now have a fantastic mechanic; I no longer attract dis-functional relationships, I could make a few changes in the ones I have and for now resistance is futile!!?? I have more than enough money to pay my bills, I drive a great little car, I live in a beautiful house, I have a job that I love to go to. My life is far from perfect and I do notice how much easier my life is since I have stopped going upstream, since I stopped resisting 'what is'. I am happy because it feels good to be happy, not because I need more 'stuff' in my life or I am waiting for things to get better to feel good. My life is now, I want the best for my 'now', so I make everything 'right'.

What is on your list of what is working in your life right now? What are you resisting and can you see a relationship to your past, in this.

Beautiful quote and image from Rasha author of 'Oneness', one of the best books I have ever read.

The Art of Selfishness

Recently I was given a book to read 'The Art of Selfishness'. Also Abraham/Hicks talks about being "selfish like a cat", initially when I heard these concepts I must admit I had a reaction; like you might be having to these ideas of being selfish or in other words 'self interested'. Upon further investigation I started to gain a better understanding, it is about talking care of yourself, accepting responsibility for ones choices and minding your own business.

Only I can know my experience or reactions in life. Only I can know what I need to feel loved and happy. So for me it makes sense that I make requests from this place. It makes sense that I make my decisions, either good or bad to gain a better understanding of what floats my boat. It makes sense that I communicate what I am feeling in relationship to others.

This topic to me is related to earlier discussions on 'everything has a purpose'. When we are young we are constantly told what to do, what to like, how to feel and what to think. We start to loose site of what we want and even how we feel about life and the circumstances in it. There is a potential to loose a sense of purpose. We are doing careers that are influenced by parents or society, as worthwhile or based on a good income. We are so influenced by being a good child, partner, parent, friend, work college that we loose a sense of self or what we enjoy to do or experience in life. We may put the wellbeing or feelings of others ahead of ourselves.

Now this is a pretty normal way to live our lives, otherwise we would be labeled as selfish. Heaven forbid we are selfish or self motivated. It is a word none of us want to be considered as. Well when I started to really look at my life and ask myself what is this all about, why do I feel depressed and unmotivated. What is my purpose in all of this, I started to see a pattern of needing people to approve of me and what I was 'doing' with my life. I saw I was presenting an image or 'trying' to appear like I had something going on. Like my life counted for something, I wanted to be an achiever or wealthy or creative. I needed a label that others approved of! I had to provide well for those that were dependent on me, until the cracks started to appear. Until I started to loose interest in everything in life; until I felt so inadequate there we nowhere else to go but up! I started to loose everything I valued - home, relationships, lively hood.

One day it felt like I just woke up to the fact that I had nothing to offer anyone else, I was struggling to take care of myself, let alone having others that needed me to take care of their needs. I fumbled along, feeling guilty and worthless for many years. Then I started to hear these new concepts; 'selfish like a cat', 'self interested', 'self loving', 'putting myself first'. I realised that if I didn't take care of me first there would be nothing for me to offer anyone else.

I started to do things differently, I started to check in with how I felt about others expectations of me. I started to hear my judgements of myself and others that I considered 'selfish'. I think I envied the selfish people of this world, they seemed to get what they needed while I felt tired and inadequate. Life started to get easier, I stopped caring what others felt about me; I didn't have much energy left to care! I started to see things a lot clearer, I gained some insights that seemed new to me. Life started to make more sense, a purpose was starting to shape itself.

Now everything seems easier, I feel happier, I enjoy the company of those I value more. I feel like I am more authentic. I feel like I have more to share and offer others. I only do for others when I am motivated. I rarely act from obligation and if I feel that old stuff creeping in I catch it and can change my attitude or gain some insight about myself or the relationship I am in with that particular person. Just information for me to re-choose who I am being in the moment.

If I don't live my life for me then I am dependent on others and my expectations of them and we all know where that takes us, to disappointment in my experience. I now realise I want others to be self interested because in my new found existence I don't want to have to second guess what others need, I want to live in a world full of people that are self interested enough to make request for what they want and I am self interested enough to know whether I value them enough to say yes.

I don't always know the purpose of what is appearing but I can be allowing enough of 'what is' to 'allow' it to be revealed to me, I don't have to have the answers to it all. I feel more connected to life now, can't really explain what that means other than there is a thread of excitement that starts in my belly, goes up to my heart and is registered in my head as "it's all good and getting better". Go on eat that last piece of chocolate and enjoy only considering yourself in that moment!

Beautiful pictures and quotes from Rasha/Oneness.

Focus and experience!!!???

This word focus seems to have some meaning and relevance for me lately. My focus is what appears in my life, what is happening, where I am. When I look at 'what is' I am now discovering it is only what I have been focusing on or putting my attention on. One of my favourite sayings lately is "that I am not setting everything in cement". I see what I see, I experience what is appearing or what I have been focusing on in the past, which could be 1 minute ago or 1 year ago, I decide how I feel about it now or I gauge my reaction to what I am seeing and 'I' choose to refocus. I get to decide if this is where I am at now; I get to decide if this is working for me now. In the past I may have taken a lot of notice of what others wanted for me, now I see I am the captain of my ship!

Recently I saw the movie 'Inception'. I could relate to what I considered to be powerful for metaphors. One reference was the power of the emotional bond between a child and parent, and how this can be used to form thoughts or beliefs in the child that will effect their actions. This, to me, is called conditioning. Another reference was made to our projections being people and events. I came out wondering if I am the dream of my soul or non-physical self, just like I am the dreamer of my dreams, which is what the movie is about.

Lately I have been using my dreams to solve things in my life. Again the flat mate. Before she left for the second time, I realised things weren't quite right between us. Before going to sleep I requested that the bond that was keeping us from moving on from each other be broken, or what needed to be solved between us to happen in my dream. Well I had a dream she was spooning me in my bed, feeling horrified about this experience I turned around and yelled at her to get out. I woke up going wow powerful stuff and that evening she informed me she was still panicked about money and needed to move into the house she had decided to move into 2 weeks before. I was amazed at the power of what happened with my request, very powerful stuff.

The reason I am mentioning this is if we do have so much power over creating through the dream state, and I reckon we have that same power in our daily lives that we are not exercising! This was true for me, yes you may say it was a coincidence, personally I don't believe in coincidences; I like to believe I live my life on purpose, doesn't mean I have control over it all. I believe if I keep focused on what I want, when I know what that is, life will orchestrate the details for it to happen. I believe I have lots of tools at my disposal to support this I just need to utalise them!

What do you want your dream life to be. Do you want to keep riding on the ghost train (which was fun by the way) or are you ready to create a different dream. Personally I am now deciding to have a ride on the joy bus, what about you!!??

Beautiful picture and quote by Rasha/Oneness.

Some thoughts on 'creating'.

Life gives us contrast and the purpose of contrast for me and according to Abraham/Hicks is to clarify what you do want. Quite often we know what we do want from the contrast but we continue to give our attention to what we don't want. Now this can seem normal, the contrast is the bills need to be paid and you don't seem to have enough cash! The clarity from this situation is plenty of money.

Now we have established from many teachings that the Universe or Source is like a big xerox machine that has already 'printed out' or given us what we want. The contrast was the asking, not enough money is asking to be abundant. Step 2 is the universe gives us what we want but we have developed a habit of not trusting in the energy that creates worlds and we think we are supposed to worry ourselves into action to make the money that is needed to sustain our lives. I have done this for most of my life, my mother did it; in fact most people I know did this or are still doing this. They think that worrying or stressing gives you more. Why else would we do it?

Yes it is a habit that has been handed down from generation to generation. What works best for me is to let go. Let go of the worrying that there isn't an answer to my problems, letting go of trying to control every little detail of what it is I want. Let go and 'let God' like we have already discussed. Now this is Step 3 part of the equation.

So how do I know I have let go - what does letting go feel like. You feel a level of peace emotionally and this is then felt physically, my body feels more relaxed. Now there are many ways you can create this, meditation is one way. For me I like the Eckhart Tolle way of feeling the energy in my body, putting my attention on my physical body, feeling the areas of tightness, dis-ease in my body. It is hard to think clearly in a state of worry; then I focus my attention on my body, my mind lets go, then some clear thoughts seem to just pop in my head. I have had some amazing results with this state of being; recently I was in a tussle with my flat mate and suddenly, almost involuntarily, I felt my emotions in my body, became still in my mind and was able to clearly state what was true for me, without any charge or anger towards my flat mate! And I got exactly what I wanted by the way without making anyone do anything.

Recently I heard a young man talk about how the mind and the ego dominated thinking has to make sense of what is happening around us. Sometimes when we are close to an issue it is impossible to make sense of it and the world and what happens in it. In my experience higher thinking or connection to something greater is the only thing that gives life and what happens in it a higher purpose. It is like getting into an airplane and looking down at it all, giving something some distance or perspective is the only way to make sense. Beliefs help to make sense of a world we don't seem to be able to control.

I like to do processes that give me a bit of distance from the issue, give me a different perspective. Like feeling my emotional body and releasing the trapped emotion; doing an Abraham/Hicks focus wheel where you put the desire you have that was created from the contrast, in a circle in the center of your page, then you put 12 circles around this circle big enough to put a short sentence about thoughts that might bring you closer vibrationally to that desired outcome. This is great and I mostly do this in my mind these days, like pivoting away from what is bothering me and looking at some higher thoughts as to why I would unconsciously create this reality, that then leads me to imagined solutions! A lot of fun really!

A bit out there but lately I have been having a real sense that I am far far more than what I appear and that the identity or personality that is Sharne is just a small focused portion of the expanded me, a bit like when I am looking at something like a flower or a bug with awe it seems like the only thing that exists in that moment. I believe that when I feel totally connected to most of my life and the events and even objects in it I am contributing to those other portions of me and expanding them and they are contributing to something bigger and bigger and bigger. I believe I don't need to know what that bigness is or who I really am, it is totally irrelevant to the rest of me if I know it or not, just by being at peace with this moment and not being afraid of what is coming I am making a huge contribution to the whole. The whole that is the planet, the whole that is other people, the whole that is the universe, physical and non physical. This makes me feel significant in a way I have never felt before, in a non achiever, non ego way. I don't have to prove anything to anyone. I am significant in my contribution to the greater good just by allowing myself to be happy! I told you it was out there!!!! Right now in this moment I love all of my projections good, bad, small, large, objects, people, emotions. All of 'IT'. xxxxxxxxxxxx

Beautiful images and quotes by Rasha/Onesness

You can't get there from here!

It seems to me a natural part of life is to be want to be somewhere, arrive and not long after want to be somewhere else. Now Abraham/Hicks calls this contrast. Everything in life at some point is what has been asked for; as we have stated before, either consciously or unconsciously. So when we arrive at where we have asked to be there is some kind of reaction to where we are. Either we are happy in the moment to be here or we definitely know we want to be somewhere else. So when we know we want to be somewhere else this is the contrast. This is when we know we no longer fully enjoy where we are and it is a natural part of existence to move on from 'here' to 'there'.

Now Abraham/Hicks says "You can't get there from here", and what that means to me is when I have decided I want to change where I am because I am no longer enjoying the 'here', either a job, a living situation, a relationship, a friendship or any number of situations, I can't get to 'there' until I change the feelings I have developed over being 'here'. So we have established it is a perfectly natural state for a human to decide that a situation no longer serves us any more, we aren't enjoy or relating to the situations we find ourselves in and sometimes we are feeling 'unhappy' about where we are. Ready to move on, well we have to change how we experience 'here', we have to be feeling better about moving on without resisting where we are right now. And just like going from here to there, steps are involved in that choice. Something as simple as I am tired and I want to go home to bed means you have to take the steps to get to bed, from the lounge to the bathroom, from bathroom to bedroom, put on pajamas, make the bed. You get the messages, some steps need to be taken to get from 'here' to 'there'.

So making where we are wrong may be ok for an initial reaction but at some stage one of the steps that may need to be taken is to feel good about where you are going, knowing that it is natural to move on from where you are and at some point feeling appreciation for the 'here' that got you to decide you now want to be 'there'. Yes new choices have to be made, change is inevitable and aligning yourself with your new choice is the best way to set the universe into motion for you to receive your new set of circumstances. Feeling some form of appreciation for where you are is very powerful and puts you instantly in alignment to where you want to be. It may take some time to emotionally get yourself into a state of appreciation. Sometimes the feeling of anger about where you are needs to turn into revenge, then revenge will need to turn into hope, then into optomism and then you may be ready to appreciate the circumstances that lead you to being ready for the change that is about to happen.

Knowing that change is the only constant in life. Growth is inevitable, we will outgrow people, places and circumstances; this is a perfectly natural human experience. Yes grieving a loss may be part of the steps that need to be taken. We are beings that have a life force flowing though us and if we don't heed the call that comes from within, that is when the life force feels dead, we have no energy to make changes in our life. We are always moving toward something better, that is inevitable. It's when we feel the fear of change and give it too much attention; allow the fear to stop us from moving forward, now that is when the life force within us feels like it has died.

We are training ourselves to move with the bigger part of ourselves, to connect with our 'source' and this takes effort and focus. There are no short cuts to the focus that will lead us to our hearts desires, we need to be aware of what we are feeling. At some point this effort becomes effortless, you find yourself feeling better a lot of the time; you see yourself unflappable; you no longer have the urge to change others in your life; you are seeing the 'good' things in life outweigh the so called 'bad'.

Never loose heart you are closer than you realise! You are loved by many whether you hear their voices or see their angelic faces or feel there hugs, they are there cheering you on when you do something as little as lift your head up and smile. Love and blessings on you all and your journey to be a delicious, loving being!

Does everything have a purpose?

Life's challenges, do they have a purpose? Well for me it is going back to the idea of beliefs and how they support me in life, or a thought, or an idea about life that no longer serves me, and I am ready to let go of it.

So yes I believe everything in life has a purpose, but it is the purpose that I put on it, not something obscure that is happening to me; that has some meaning but I have no idea what it is. I believe I create my reality, this belief serves me in being in some kind of control in my life. Not the traditional sense of control but a sense of empowerment around what happens in my life. If I am the creator of my reality through my beliefs, thoughts and actions, then I am not a victim and this is where I can control how I view what is happening in my life, either changing my thoughts or beliefs to create a change in my circumstances. Sometimes an action needs to be taken when I have some clarity around 'the purpose' of this event.

I like to believe the purpose for certain circumstances in my life is for me to grow as a being. To expand my awareness of self, to see myself as more rather than less, which is how we can at times view ourselves in relationship to life's challenges. At these times of great challenge it is often hard to see the purpose of such events and see 'I' have created this situation to see myself as more. So in these times I personally need lots of reminds of who I really am. I need to examine my thoughts and reactions to the contrast in my life. I spend time in quiet contemplation, I listen to the teachings of Abraham/Hicks and Eckhart Tolle; this all helps me feel my way into some clarity around my challenging situation and helps me take some expansive action. What I mean by expansive action is perhaps acting differently to how I have in the past. For example I am wanting to live on my own now that my flat mate is moving out, I don't have a clear path to this experience; I have an ad in the paper and I am going to act from place of abundance, not a place of needing someone to help pay the rent. I am going to communicate to people who ring up from an empowered space of what I want from a flat mate, not like I need you to rent my room what do you want. For me this is the purpose of what has 'happened'. For me to value myself in relationship to a future flat mate, because guess what, that is the vibration I am going to have to come from if I want to be able to afford to live on my own. I am going to have to feel abundant, feel self value, feel empowered. That is the purpose I am assigning to an experience that challenges my circumstances of what could appear to be 'lack' of a room mate.

What about the days we don't feel so connected?

So what we focus on is created in our reality, whether it is thoughts of what is, the past, the future. Anything that has your attention in the moment. For instance today I am feeling a little flat; no big 'yes' in relationship to anything in particular. On days like this I use the 'self hypnosis' technique; making my feelings in this moment perfect, no matter what form it is taking. For example, "it is good to surrender to what is; it is good to experience every range of emotions; feeling a bit flat means I am processing something; I can feel the ease of letting go on a day like this". Lots of inner dialogue that lets me know I can feel what ever I feel and that is ok.

I put on some music that uplifts me or I do something that can shift me from resisting what I am feeling, like calling a friend I can feel safe to share my feelings with, see a feel good movie, buying yourself a little treat (for me that's a small piece of organic chocolate). All the time being aware you are taking some action to feel better! Because guess what feeling flat is ok and you are processing something internal, you are releasing something from the past, we don't even have to know what that is. So first you are accepting that fact, secondly you are giving yourself permission to feel better. Also for me it is so much easier for me to move into a state of surrender, which for me means letting go of having the answers to the challenges life may present. Allowing that part of me to create the solutions to life's challenges, rather than finding the solutions!

Something I was reading in 'A Seth Book' was that a challenge is one end of a situation, the other end is the solution. Life seems to be a series of challenges that need a solution. A solution is an outcome to a challenge. Now our imaginations can create all kinds of solutions to these 'challenges' depending on our state of mind and reaction to the challenge, a negative or positive solution. Why not, in our minds, go to the positive solution, not even having to know what that is, just knowing there will be a solution one way or another and I want it to be positive.

Most of the time our lives are a testimony to these challenges being solved, right?! We get through it and most of the time our sponsoring beliefs allow these challenges to meet our values or standards in life. For example if our sponsoring beliefs say I have always slept in a warm comfortable bed, have a roof over my head and have something to eat everyday. Well if we look to our past most of our lives we have managed to create this belief. We usually take some action to fulfill this belief. What I am now suggesting is that we know the solution has a life of it's own; the challenge has already been solved in the future and to just allow ourselves to be present to the moment we have already created and allow the future to take care of itself without our negative or limiting projections which are more often than not.

What do you want to see created in your next moment? Well just hand that over to a higher power and enjoy the here and now because I can assure you there is so much more to enjoy than you are giving 'life' credit for.

What am I putting my attention on!

In the last post I started to talk about self hypnosis. When I spend that 10 minutes of focused thought I like to generalise about how I want my life to be. For example I say things like "Source has it all handled", "everything is perfect and as it should be", "everything supports me in growing", "life is abundance and there are examples of this everywhere". Thoughts I can believe, thoughts that make me feel good, thoughts that give me hope of a better future! Also thoughts that I want to form new beliefs on.

It may seem like we are going to so much effort to create the change we want to see in our lives. It seems like effort at first and then it becomes second nature, just like learning anything we wish to experience with some ease. You want to become an artist you learn to paint, you want to become a musician, you learn to play an instrument. I want to become a conscious creator, I need to learn to become aware of my thoughts and experiences in life. I saw myself being a victim to the circumstances of my life, I discovered that this was just a way I experienced myself based on a lack of self awareness, based on past beliefs. I discovered I could change this image I had of myself, I could change the thoughts I had about my life.

So that word 'life', to me represents everything that appears outside of myself and including me. When I view the life I am living I don't always experience myself as empowered in relationship to society. It seems that most of society is trying to dis-empower me. Governments are telling me what I can and can't do, friends have their expectations of me, family has it's expectation of me etc. etc. Where does my true power lie? For me I have discovered it lies in my 'authentic self', which I believe never lies to me or tries to control me. My authentic self is that part of me that isn't attached to an image I identify with, that I created to keep myself safe. An identification I created to give myself a purpose in what at times can seem like a meaningless and scary experience.

One of my many identities used to be a caring and supportive person. Now I can give you a list of people who would see cracks in that mirror! Ex partners, children, friends to name a few. Then I discovered my 'authentic self', that part of me that could be honest and say, "no right now I don't care about you, right now I care about me more than I care about you". In fact this felt right, yes sometimes extremely uncomfortable and at times was met with anger and frustration from that list of people, but I slowly started to realise I liked myself better when I was being authentic and for me this was the beginning of creating a real experience of love in my life. Love of me first and for those who really saw value in their relationships with me, a better more loving friendship that wasn't based on a needy approval seeking 'image' of me.

Yes I am still growing in that awareness of 'self love' and what it means in any given moment. I don't always get it right and guess what I don't really care!

Point of Power

One of the things I mentioned in my last blog was 'point of power', which is in the moment because that is the only real time we exist. That is the only place we can change what we do, how we feel, how we react, what we think. Now our initial reaction to anything in our exterior world may be a conditioned response, by this I mean a way we have learned to respond. In some ways this conditioned response may have given us the result we wanted in the past, but as we change e.g. grow up, move into different relationships or circumstances these responses may no longer either be appropriate or get us what we want. Also we may start to see certain circumstances seem to repeat themselves over and over again! An indication that something needs to change to get a different result. The start of this is accepting responsibility for our circumstances, knowing the only time we can change anything for ourselves is in the moment, this is the place our initial thought formed to create our initial belief about ourselves and our world.

When we become aware of these initial responses I am suggesting this is our point of power. We may not always feel like we are empowered in these moments but I am suggesting just the noticing of our initial reactions or thoughts is enough to allow yourself to become empowered. One of my past beliefs was I always had to appear to be good and in control of my emotions. Now I can feel uncomfortable emotions, really feel them in my body, not need to bury them or run away from them. Then that's when the magic happens, I feel them fully, give myself permission to feel uncomfortable and something changes. I allow myself to become vulnerable and communicate what I am feeling. I allow myself to say "I need to go right now" because this moment is not feeling so good to me. I can sit with these feelings until I feel some relief, I might gain some clarity about a situation that I didn't have in the past. The circumstances or relationship shifts in an unexpected way.

My fav book at the moment "A Seth Book" talks about self hypnosis. I am so enjoying this exercise! It is about changing ones beliefs in the moment with undivided attention in a relaxed atmosphere. Not just an exercise in positive affirming but sitting with an old pattern with new thoughts about it. Thoughts we can believe that can replace the old pattern. Ideally it is practiced for about 10 minutes, a continuous thought or stream of thoughts about a situation and how you would like it, having the mind set that you are going to accept this new belief. Preferably start with an issue that you don't have a really negative reaction around. Keep tweaking the thoughts until they feel right and acceptable to you. Again it will take practice, that is what it is going to take to change old beliefs and patterns that no longer serve us and we know that by what is appearing in our lives. Pretty easy to see what is not working, no need to judge but yes a change needs to happen.

Oh gone on, be the change you want to see happen. Then you will know you are your own point of power!

More about beliefs!

Beliefs seem to be important when considering they manifest themselves into what we call our physical reality! Something I am looking at closely is the value judgements I place on what appears in my reality. Usually I judge something as either good or bad. Maybe we can view the situation or circumstances as just 'what is', that it is information I use to see the results of a past belief, not needing to know the beliefs themselves.

Beliefs can be tricky things when we need to know what the belief is, sometimes there are several beliefs that create a reality, they are not something that we need to hunt down and destroy at all costs. Abraham/Hicks says "beliefs are thoughts we keep thinking". So what if we have a new thought about what is appearing in our reality, what if we did something different to change the direction of what is appearing!

At present I am reading "A Seth Book" and information about probable futures. A bit like the movie "Sliding Doors". If we can change our perspective, or thoughts, in the moment about what is appearing, then we create a new outcome. Now given our power is always in the moment, meaning we can only ever take any action here and now. Doesn't it make sense that when we feel ourselves reacting to a situation (negatively or fearfully) that the only power we have to change our experience is by doing something different to what we have done in the past. Something I am using that seems to be serving me very well is the belief that 'Source' (some use God or Universe) is my personal assistant. Things that I have no immediate control over are handed to my personal assistant called 'Source'. If it is obvious the action I need to take, well I go ahead and take it. If I don't feel any power in the moment e.g. someone to replace the flat mate that is leaving, I hand this over to 'Source', my amazing assistant that has more resources than I do, more money, more time and a better view of the future. Now like I say this is a belief that serves me very well and does create my future to be how I want it so far, in many ways. It may appear as an inspired thought, someone might appear that says "I will fix your car", when the mechanic said it would cost $3,000 and they are doing it for $450. Like I say none of it my problem, my assistant has it all handled!

I am endeavoring each day to hand over more stuff to my personal assistant that I was not qualified for in the past but none the less tried to do myself. I thought I needed to be in control of every aspect of my life! I thought I had all the answers until I discovered I was not all that pleased with the results. It does take practice and yes it is a new belief for me and I am seeing how well it is working in many areas of my life. I am wanting to expand what I hand over to my trusty assistant, I really do want the support, I don't need to control every little detail of my life. I believe we all have this assistant, they are waiting patiently to do their job! Let it go and let.......

Hmmm negative reactions, a different perspective!?

Ok some of the things we have been looking at are our beliefs. It is generally accepted that we form these beliefs predominately during our childhood from our external world eg parents, siblings, friends, authority figures. Anyone we have some kind of dependency on.

It is also widely stated that we just keep repeating these beliefs, which form patterns, throughout our life until we become conscious that we have something to do with these patterns. I am exposing myself to teachings that are revealing to me that when I allow myself to experience the reactions fully to a repeat pattern, I am releasing the feelings that initially formed the beliefs from day 1.

Now this is a very interesting way to look at our reactions to something we don't think we like in life, that sometimes we feel bad or guilty for having. Some of these reactions may be anger, hurt, frustration, shame, embarrassed, humiliated to name a few. What if these emotions were our 'guiding lights' to releasing these limiting beliefs and patterns. What if we gave ourselves permission to have these feelings, allowed ourselves to feel them fully, knowing that we are releasing past feelings that have been holding us back from living the life of our dreams.

I say embrace this new belief as a path to freedom. We don't need to project these feelings onto others, they can just be something we allow ourselves to have and if we do project them onto others, which can happen at times, it isn't a reason to pile a dob of guilt on top, just another emotion to sit with, allow ourselves to feel, know we are releasing something from our past that may have served us in the game of life but no longer applies!

Beliefs are a way of navigating life, just a road map we use to get from a to b. We can change these beliefs to get us to where we want when what we want changes. Hold these beliefs lightly, don't take them too seriously, because before you know it they are ready to be replaced by new beliefs that are going to support us in getting what we want from life! Enjoy!

What if!?

What if!?

So given we believe that the external world is a manifestation of our internal world - thoughts, feelings, imaginings of what is becoming in our future, beliefs that became part of our self image and way of navigating the world. What if we could view EVERYTHING in our external world as information. Either about the people in our world, our beliefs manifested, our thoughts etc.

For example recently my flat mate asked me what I thought about her having some people over on a certain afternoon/evening. During the day I worked, so no issue with that but I had decided that that particular evening I wanted to be in a quiet introspective space because of some woowoo stuff that was significant on that date for me. So when I informed her about this she decided I was wrong to want what I wanted, proceeded to criticise my belief system. Initially I felt a reaction like I was being bullied, criticised and manipulated to name a few. Then I stopped reacting, almost seemed like an involuntary process and simply said “you asked me for my thoughts, I gave them to you and now you can do what you want with that”. I clearly stated I wanted my evening to be quiet and introspective for me. Went to sleep that night, woke up feeling great, knowing that whatever happened I was going to have the night I wanted. I didn’t feel the need to share the feelings I had about her behaviour or discuss the matter any further. I started to have thoughts about ‘Source’ has this handled (my word for God, Universe). In other words I let it go completely and I didn’t want my now consumed with thoughts about her so I made her right for wanting what she wanted, also knowing I didn’t want it to be at my expense.

Well a week later my flat mate informs me her meeting will be on the next evening! Leaving me to have the night I had planned for myself. I felt like a win win for both of us. I get to have my quiet evening on the date I wanted it and she has her gathering, which is what she wanted.

So the information I gained from this situation about myself and the external world was that my flat mates behaviour was information for me to know she will do whatever she can to get her needs met, her stuff not mine. I didn’t need to use that information to make her feel bad or to manipulate her into getting what I wanted. I can have what I want from life by letting go and letting Source handle the details. I could even go deeper into my beliefs if I wanted to around my initial reaction to the situation, but for me just giving myself permission to communicate my experience when it is being affected by another, giving myself permission to have what I want, and letting go of the details was more than enough information about myself and what appeared in my external world. Perhaps this is always enough, I don’t need to look at my old beliefs I had already discovered new ones that were serving me very well.

I get the old stuff about sharing your feelings and all that stuff that came from the 80’s psychology and yes it was a great place to start with accessing ones emotions, but for me now it is just information for me, I don’t need to tell someone what my experience of them is unless it is really getting in the way of me having a loving interaction. Now it just gives me clarity about myself and what I want from life and to leave the details to be taken care of in the future by the future.

Dear Sharne

I have decided to start a blog because I have friends and family who seem to value my opinion. I would like to make myself available to people who would like to have a spiritual perspective to their challenges in life. I think of myself more as a 'vibration coach' than someone who tells people how to solve their problems.

I believe we are a transmitting and receiving mechanism. What is being transmitted and received is due in part to beliefs, thoughts, feelings and reactions. These responses to life are formed in relationship to us and the world we live in. My external world, in my belief system, is a response to what I am feeding my internal world, thus creating me to be a transmitting mechanism which then effects what I am receiving or what appears in my life.

I would like to support individuals in seeing clearly what beliefs, thoughts, feelings and reactions they are having to the world and how they can change these responses to create their life experience instead of being a victim to their experiences and circumstances.

My teachers are Eckhart Tolle, Abraham/Hicks, Rasha to name a few. These are the major teachings I will draw my references from and the language I will use to convey the new beliefs that we can utilise to make real change within ourselves and our external world.