What if!?

What if!?

So given we believe that the external world is a manifestation of our internal world - thoughts, feelings, imaginings of what is becoming in our future, beliefs that became part of our self image and way of navigating the world. What if we could view EVERYTHING in our external world as information. Either about the people in our world, our beliefs manifested, our thoughts etc.

For example recently my flat mate asked me what I thought about her having some people over on a certain afternoon/evening. During the day I worked, so no issue with that but I had decided that that particular evening I wanted to be in a quiet introspective space because of some woowoo stuff that was significant on that date for me. So when I informed her about this she decided I was wrong to want what I wanted, proceeded to criticise my belief system. Initially I felt a reaction like I was being bullied, criticised and manipulated to name a few. Then I stopped reacting, almost seemed like an involuntary process and simply said “you asked me for my thoughts, I gave them to you and now you can do what you want with that”. I clearly stated I wanted my evening to be quiet and introspective for me. Went to sleep that night, woke up feeling great, knowing that whatever happened I was going to have the night I wanted. I didn’t feel the need to share the feelings I had about her behaviour or discuss the matter any further. I started to have thoughts about ‘Source’ has this handled (my word for God, Universe). In other words I let it go completely and I didn’t want my now consumed with thoughts about her so I made her right for wanting what she wanted, also knowing I didn’t want it to be at my expense.

Well a week later my flat mate informs me her meeting will be on the next evening! Leaving me to have the night I had planned for myself. I felt like a win win for both of us. I get to have my quiet evening on the date I wanted it and she has her gathering, which is what she wanted.

So the information I gained from this situation about myself and the external world was that my flat mates behaviour was information for me to know she will do whatever she can to get her needs met, her stuff not mine. I didn’t need to use that information to make her feel bad or to manipulate her into getting what I wanted. I can have what I want from life by letting go and letting Source handle the details. I could even go deeper into my beliefs if I wanted to around my initial reaction to the situation, but for me just giving myself permission to communicate my experience when it is being affected by another, giving myself permission to have what I want, and letting go of the details was more than enough information about myself and what appeared in my external world. Perhaps this is always enough, I don’t need to look at my old beliefs I had already discovered new ones that were serving me very well.

I get the old stuff about sharing your feelings and all that stuff that came from the 80’s psychology and yes it was a great place to start with accessing ones emotions, but for me now it is just information for me, I don’t need to tell someone what my experience of them is unless it is really getting in the way of me having a loving interaction. Now it just gives me clarity about myself and what I want from life and to leave the details to be taken care of in the future by the future.