It's Not Personal, it's Universal!!!???

For me, right now, I view everything as significant to my growth, or rather, an opportunity to move beyond a pattern or dis-functional belief. I know I have taken something personal when I have a negative reaction. I was talking to some beautiful young woman (one being my daughter) the other day and I had one of those 'aha' moments. I realised that if I react to a situation or person negatively I am releasing some old emotional 'stuff'; I realised if I was truly in a loving space there is no way I could have negative thoughts or responses about another, or blame them for what they said or did. I believe when I get to the stage of not needing to change the 'other' or take personally an other's process I will have let go off past emotional baggage. I will be able to be with an other's process and feeling nothing but allowing and acceptance; I wouldn't need to blame, punish or reject; I wouldn't feel hurt or rejected by their processing.

Just the same as I wouldn't like to think I am being punished or blamed or rejected for my unconscious behavior towards others that have crossed my path. I have done and said some terrible things to the people I love, from a place of pain. If I reflect on these times in the past, which I rarely do, I almost felt a bit insane. The parts of me that were inflicting pain felt pain. As Abraham/Hicks says "nobody that is in their true power could ever inflict pain on a fellow human being", or words to that effect. I can look back on things I have done in my past and wondered 'what was I thinking'; some things I have no relationship to at all 'now' and have no idea where those actions were coming from. If I could go back in time I would never do or say what I said to hurt others and yes I may still be doing this to others now and my intention now would be to put some space between me and an other's pain body; now it may be more like self protection and yes perhaps in the past it was self protection also. The difference with now is I am so much more aware of what I am feeling and can accept responsibility for what I am feeling and I don't need to have bad thoughts towards the so called 'perpetrator'. I can even see how perhaps my behavior led me to put myself in such a situation; I can diffuse my emotions enough to be allowing in the moment, yes it is a skill that takes some practice but it is achievable. I can allow myself to fail as well and get taken over by my reactions or emotions.

I can accept that I am a 'universal being' in the process of becoming more; I can accept that everyone else is a 'universal being' in the process of becoming more. All those so called 'awful' moments in my life have made me a better person, well I think so and I am pretty sure those who love me would say the same and they are the only opinions that really count to me. I can get it wrong and still feel connected to something bigger because everything is an opportunity to be more loving towards 'self' and 'other'.

Inspirational thoughts and image by 'Rasha'.