What about the days we don't feel so connected?

So what we focus on is created in our reality, whether it is thoughts of what is, the past, the future. Anything that has your attention in the moment. For instance today I am feeling a little flat; no big 'yes' in relationship to anything in particular. On days like this I use the 'self hypnosis' technique; making my feelings in this moment perfect, no matter what form it is taking. For example, "it is good to surrender to what is; it is good to experience every range of emotions; feeling a bit flat means I am processing something; I can feel the ease of letting go on a day like this". Lots of inner dialogue that lets me know I can feel what ever I feel and that is ok.

I put on some music that uplifts me or I do something that can shift me from resisting what I am feeling, like calling a friend I can feel safe to share my feelings with, see a feel good movie, buying yourself a little treat (for me that's a small piece of organic chocolate). All the time being aware you are taking some action to feel better! Because guess what feeling flat is ok and you are processing something internal, you are releasing something from the past, we don't even have to know what that is. So first you are accepting that fact, secondly you are giving yourself permission to feel better. Also for me it is so much easier for me to move into a state of surrender, which for me means letting go of having the answers to the challenges life may present. Allowing that part of me to create the solutions to life's challenges, rather than finding the solutions!

Something I was reading in 'A Seth Book' was that a challenge is one end of a situation, the other end is the solution. Life seems to be a series of challenges that need a solution. A solution is an outcome to a challenge. Now our imaginations can create all kinds of solutions to these 'challenges' depending on our state of mind and reaction to the challenge, a negative or positive solution. Why not, in our minds, go to the positive solution, not even having to know what that is, just knowing there will be a solution one way or another and I want it to be positive.

Most of the time our lives are a testimony to these challenges being solved, right?! We get through it and most of the time our sponsoring beliefs allow these challenges to meet our values or standards in life. For example if our sponsoring beliefs say I have always slept in a warm comfortable bed, have a roof over my head and have something to eat everyday. Well if we look to our past most of our lives we have managed to create this belief. We usually take some action to fulfill this belief. What I am now suggesting is that we know the solution has a life of it's own; the challenge has already been solved in the future and to just allow ourselves to be present to the moment we have already created and allow the future to take care of itself without our negative or limiting projections which are more often than not.

What do you want to see created in your next moment? Well just hand that over to a higher power and enjoy the here and now because I can assure you there is so much more to enjoy than you are giving 'life' credit for.

What am I putting my attention on!

In the last post I started to talk about self hypnosis. When I spend that 10 minutes of focused thought I like to generalise about how I want my life to be. For example I say things like "Source has it all handled", "everything is perfect and as it should be", "everything supports me in growing", "life is abundance and there are examples of this everywhere". Thoughts I can believe, thoughts that make me feel good, thoughts that give me hope of a better future! Also thoughts that I want to form new beliefs on.

It may seem like we are going to so much effort to create the change we want to see in our lives. It seems like effort at first and then it becomes second nature, just like learning anything we wish to experience with some ease. You want to become an artist you learn to paint, you want to become a musician, you learn to play an instrument. I want to become a conscious creator, I need to learn to become aware of my thoughts and experiences in life. I saw myself being a victim to the circumstances of my life, I discovered that this was just a way I experienced myself based on a lack of self awareness, based on past beliefs. I discovered I could change this image I had of myself, I could change the thoughts I had about my life.

So that word 'life', to me represents everything that appears outside of myself and including me. When I view the life I am living I don't always experience myself as empowered in relationship to society. It seems that most of society is trying to dis-empower me. Governments are telling me what I can and can't do, friends have their expectations of me, family has it's expectation of me etc. etc. Where does my true power lie? For me I have discovered it lies in my 'authentic self', which I believe never lies to me or tries to control me. My authentic self is that part of me that isn't attached to an image I identify with, that I created to keep myself safe. An identification I created to give myself a purpose in what at times can seem like a meaningless and scary experience.

One of my many identities used to be a caring and supportive person. Now I can give you a list of people who would see cracks in that mirror! Ex partners, children, friends to name a few. Then I discovered my 'authentic self', that part of me that could be honest and say, "no right now I don't care about you, right now I care about me more than I care about you". In fact this felt right, yes sometimes extremely uncomfortable and at times was met with anger and frustration from that list of people, but I slowly started to realise I liked myself better when I was being authentic and for me this was the beginning of creating a real experience of love in my life. Love of me first and for those who really saw value in their relationships with me, a better more loving friendship that wasn't based on a needy approval seeking 'image' of me.

Yes I am still growing in that awareness of 'self love' and what it means in any given moment. I don't always get it right and guess what I don't really care!

Point of Power

One of the things I mentioned in my last blog was 'point of power', which is in the moment because that is the only real time we exist. That is the only place we can change what we do, how we feel, how we react, what we think. Now our initial reaction to anything in our exterior world may be a conditioned response, by this I mean a way we have learned to respond. In some ways this conditioned response may have given us the result we wanted in the past, but as we change e.g. grow up, move into different relationships or circumstances these responses may no longer either be appropriate or get us what we want. Also we may start to see certain circumstances seem to repeat themselves over and over again! An indication that something needs to change to get a different result. The start of this is accepting responsibility for our circumstances, knowing the only time we can change anything for ourselves is in the moment, this is the place our initial thought formed to create our initial belief about ourselves and our world.

When we become aware of these initial responses I am suggesting this is our point of power. We may not always feel like we are empowered in these moments but I am suggesting just the noticing of our initial reactions or thoughts is enough to allow yourself to become empowered. One of my past beliefs was I always had to appear to be good and in control of my emotions. Now I can feel uncomfortable emotions, really feel them in my body, not need to bury them or run away from them. Then that's when the magic happens, I feel them fully, give myself permission to feel uncomfortable and something changes. I allow myself to become vulnerable and communicate what I am feeling. I allow myself to say "I need to go right now" because this moment is not feeling so good to me. I can sit with these feelings until I feel some relief, I might gain some clarity about a situation that I didn't have in the past. The circumstances or relationship shifts in an unexpected way.

My fav book at the moment "A Seth Book" talks about self hypnosis. I am so enjoying this exercise! It is about changing ones beliefs in the moment with undivided attention in a relaxed atmosphere. Not just an exercise in positive affirming but sitting with an old pattern with new thoughts about it. Thoughts we can believe that can replace the old pattern. Ideally it is practiced for about 10 minutes, a continuous thought or stream of thoughts about a situation and how you would like it, having the mind set that you are going to accept this new belief. Preferably start with an issue that you don't have a really negative reaction around. Keep tweaking the thoughts until they feel right and acceptable to you. Again it will take practice, that is what it is going to take to change old beliefs and patterns that no longer serve us and we know that by what is appearing in our lives. Pretty easy to see what is not working, no need to judge but yes a change needs to happen.

Oh gone on, be the change you want to see happen. Then you will know you are your own point of power!

More about beliefs!

Beliefs seem to be important when considering they manifest themselves into what we call our physical reality! Something I am looking at closely is the value judgements I place on what appears in my reality. Usually I judge something as either good or bad. Maybe we can view the situation or circumstances as just 'what is', that it is information I use to see the results of a past belief, not needing to know the beliefs themselves.

Beliefs can be tricky things when we need to know what the belief is, sometimes there are several beliefs that create a reality, they are not something that we need to hunt down and destroy at all costs. Abraham/Hicks says "beliefs are thoughts we keep thinking". So what if we have a new thought about what is appearing in our reality, what if we did something different to change the direction of what is appearing!

At present I am reading "A Seth Book" and information about probable futures. A bit like the movie "Sliding Doors". If we can change our perspective, or thoughts, in the moment about what is appearing, then we create a new outcome. Now given our power is always in the moment, meaning we can only ever take any action here and now. Doesn't it make sense that when we feel ourselves reacting to a situation (negatively or fearfully) that the only power we have to change our experience is by doing something different to what we have done in the past. Something I am using that seems to be serving me very well is the belief that 'Source' (some use God or Universe) is my personal assistant. Things that I have no immediate control over are handed to my personal assistant called 'Source'. If it is obvious the action I need to take, well I go ahead and take it. If I don't feel any power in the moment e.g. someone to replace the flat mate that is leaving, I hand this over to 'Source', my amazing assistant that has more resources than I do, more money, more time and a better view of the future. Now like I say this is a belief that serves me very well and does create my future to be how I want it so far, in many ways. It may appear as an inspired thought, someone might appear that says "I will fix your car", when the mechanic said it would cost $3,000 and they are doing it for $450. Like I say none of it my problem, my assistant has it all handled!

I am endeavoring each day to hand over more stuff to my personal assistant that I was not qualified for in the past but none the less tried to do myself. I thought I needed to be in control of every aspect of my life! I thought I had all the answers until I discovered I was not all that pleased with the results. It does take practice and yes it is a new belief for me and I am seeing how well it is working in many areas of my life. I am wanting to expand what I hand over to my trusty assistant, I really do want the support, I don't need to control every little detail of my life. I believe we all have this assistant, they are waiting patiently to do their job! Let it go and let.......

Hmmm negative reactions, a different perspective!?

Ok some of the things we have been looking at are our beliefs. It is generally accepted that we form these beliefs predominately during our childhood from our external world eg parents, siblings, friends, authority figures. Anyone we have some kind of dependency on.

It is also widely stated that we just keep repeating these beliefs, which form patterns, throughout our life until we become conscious that we have something to do with these patterns. I am exposing myself to teachings that are revealing to me that when I allow myself to experience the reactions fully to a repeat pattern, I am releasing the feelings that initially formed the beliefs from day 1.

Now this is a very interesting way to look at our reactions to something we don't think we like in life, that sometimes we feel bad or guilty for having. Some of these reactions may be anger, hurt, frustration, shame, embarrassed, humiliated to name a few. What if these emotions were our 'guiding lights' to releasing these limiting beliefs and patterns. What if we gave ourselves permission to have these feelings, allowed ourselves to feel them fully, knowing that we are releasing past feelings that have been holding us back from living the life of our dreams.

I say embrace this new belief as a path to freedom. We don't need to project these feelings onto others, they can just be something we allow ourselves to have and if we do project them onto others, which can happen at times, it isn't a reason to pile a dob of guilt on top, just another emotion to sit with, allow ourselves to feel, know we are releasing something from our past that may have served us in the game of life but no longer applies!

Beliefs are a way of navigating life, just a road map we use to get from a to b. We can change these beliefs to get us to where we want when what we want changes. Hold these beliefs lightly, don't take them too seriously, because before you know it they are ready to be replaced by new beliefs that are going to support us in getting what we want from life! Enjoy!

What if!?

What if!?

So given we believe that the external world is a manifestation of our internal world - thoughts, feelings, imaginings of what is becoming in our future, beliefs that became part of our self image and way of navigating the world. What if we could view EVERYTHING in our external world as information. Either about the people in our world, our beliefs manifested, our thoughts etc.

For example recently my flat mate asked me what I thought about her having some people over on a certain afternoon/evening. During the day I worked, so no issue with that but I had decided that that particular evening I wanted to be in a quiet introspective space because of some woowoo stuff that was significant on that date for me. So when I informed her about this she decided I was wrong to want what I wanted, proceeded to criticise my belief system. Initially I felt a reaction like I was being bullied, criticised and manipulated to name a few. Then I stopped reacting, almost seemed like an involuntary process and simply said “you asked me for my thoughts, I gave them to you and now you can do what you want with that”. I clearly stated I wanted my evening to be quiet and introspective for me. Went to sleep that night, woke up feeling great, knowing that whatever happened I was going to have the night I wanted. I didn’t feel the need to share the feelings I had about her behaviour or discuss the matter any further. I started to have thoughts about ‘Source’ has this handled (my word for God, Universe). In other words I let it go completely and I didn’t want my now consumed with thoughts about her so I made her right for wanting what she wanted, also knowing I didn’t want it to be at my expense.

Well a week later my flat mate informs me her meeting will be on the next evening! Leaving me to have the night I had planned for myself. I felt like a win win for both of us. I get to have my quiet evening on the date I wanted it and she has her gathering, which is what she wanted.

So the information I gained from this situation about myself and the external world was that my flat mates behaviour was information for me to know she will do whatever she can to get her needs met, her stuff not mine. I didn’t need to use that information to make her feel bad or to manipulate her into getting what I wanted. I can have what I want from life by letting go and letting Source handle the details. I could even go deeper into my beliefs if I wanted to around my initial reaction to the situation, but for me just giving myself permission to communicate my experience when it is being affected by another, giving myself permission to have what I want, and letting go of the details was more than enough information about myself and what appeared in my external world. Perhaps this is always enough, I don’t need to look at my old beliefs I had already discovered new ones that were serving me very well.

I get the old stuff about sharing your feelings and all that stuff that came from the 80’s psychology and yes it was a great place to start with accessing ones emotions, but for me now it is just information for me, I don’t need to tell someone what my experience of them is unless it is really getting in the way of me having a loving interaction. Now it just gives me clarity about myself and what I want from life and to leave the details to be taken care of in the future by the future.

Dear Sharne

I have decided to start a blog because I have friends and family who seem to value my opinion. I would like to make myself available to people who would like to have a spiritual perspective to their challenges in life. I think of myself more as a 'vibration coach' than someone who tells people how to solve their problems.

I believe we are a transmitting and receiving mechanism. What is being transmitted and received is due in part to beliefs, thoughts, feelings and reactions. These responses to life are formed in relationship to us and the world we live in. My external world, in my belief system, is a response to what I am feeding my internal world, thus creating me to be a transmitting mechanism which then effects what I am receiving or what appears in my life.

I would like to support individuals in seeing clearly what beliefs, thoughts, feelings and reactions they are having to the world and how they can change these responses to create their life experience instead of being a victim to their experiences and circumstances.

My teachers are Eckhart Tolle, Abraham/Hicks, Rasha to name a few. These are the major teachings I will draw my references from and the language I will use to convey the new beliefs that we can utilise to make real change within ourselves and our external world.