What about all the goodies?

Now don’t get me wrong I want the stuff too. I want to live in a beautiful house overlooking the ocean, a brand new car that is environmentally friendly, beautiful clothes, holidays in exotic places; just being able to buy whatever I want whenever I want it! For me having a spiritually based life isn’t all about being the light and love or being a selfless guru that has no need for possessions. If I wanted that I would become a Buddhist monk and that is not the path for me.

I do want the stuff of life and I have spent plenty of years pursuing the means to make the money to acquire the ‘stuff’. I would get some ‘stuff’ but I slowly realised the buzz from having fun objects didn’t last that long, it wasn’t long before I wanted something else to give me the ‘buzz’ or make me happy, which I slowly realised was the underlying desire. I have now spent many years questioning and self investigating my so called needs and desires. Why do I really want ‘some thing’? And yes I decided there was nothing wrong with the desiring of fun things, I did receive pleasure from the latest Apple Mac product; it’s a lot of fun to buy a new pair of shoes and feel more socially acceptable by having the goodies.

So what am I really saying here. What I have discovered is I have desires but I don’t need the goodies to make me happy, I can be happy without the stuff, I don’t need the stuff to feel complete, happy or worthy. Also I can get obsessed with things I find beautiful or something I think I need. I have an ‘I need it now’ personality. ‘No time like the present’, ‘if not now when’ stuff can go on in my head. So I have observed that I only ‘think’ I need something, I convince myself that I need something. Recognising this behaviour at all?!

Like I have said before, I am, as much as I am aware, living my life as my own experiement. I like to observe my desires, thoughts, feelings and actions, I challenge my desires and needs. I only take action to buy something when it feels right, when I have totally aligned with my desire that it feels natural to have it, not needy. Now this can be an instant feeling when I am shopping and go yes, it feels great for me to give this to myself or buy a gift for someone else. Other things take longer for me to align with. There are many reasons for this, I may be dealing with money issues, I am accessing whether I really do need to have this item or if I want it for dysfunctional reasons, like I need to make myself feel good because I am feeling some sort of lack within myself.

Now all of the above are good enough reasons to make me buy something that I want, but like I said before it won’t last. I want the sort of happiness that lasts, that doesn’t need to be constantly fed by something outside of myself, that isn’t dependent on an object or a person because sooner rather than later they will let me down, they won’t continue to make me feel happy or even good. The loss of them will disappoint me or make me feel sad! So instead of being the victim to the ‘stuff’ of life why not just appreciate them when they are here; enjoy the people, places and objects of life when we have them. Needing anything or anyone can be painful and personally I never like feeling like that. I don’t need to be detached from things outside of myself, I just want to gain a healthy perspective about it all. I want to allow them in and let them go when it is time. I want to appreciate how useful my things are. Having things come because I love beauty and usefulness. Interesting enough when I get to a place of not needing something the means to attain seem to appear or the object itself.

Another consideration is the price I am paying to have the goodies. People (not me) spend their whole lives working in jobs they don’t enjoy to buy things for themselves or their families; spending 6 days working and stressing to enjoy 1 day a week or only 3 weeks a year. Yes they might have the latest gadgets but are not present enough to really enjoy them, or are too stressed and tired to value the people they love. I could go on about all of that but no need. I just want to say question what is behind the needs and desires; get in touch with how you feel about life and the ‘stuff’ you think you need!

Lost In Space

Today I was chatting to a friend. We were talking about not being able to identify with any particular role in life. I said it was like floating in outer space, in a space suit that has a line attached to a space ship. We are floating around out there, not doing or being anyone in particular; feeling kind of free but a bit lost and confused sometimes; feeling lighter and more spacious than everyone else in the space ship. We can see the people in the space ship, they are busy doing their stuff or 'important' roles in life; they are looking towards us every now and then, waving at us and feeling sorry for us floating around out there! I must admit we were laughing and laughing just at the imagery of it all.

This analogy is about moving away from the 'grid' so to speak. Not fitting into the mold, not identifying with any particular role that we were conditioned to fit into. For many years I thought life went a particular way. Grew up, got married, had kids, lived happy ever after....... well not to be for me! First part yeah that was great, then the cracks started to appear, I was able to fool myself that I was on the road to 'happy ever after' when I gave birth to my adorable children and just loved the role of mother. So I got divorced and then I started to seek the 'happy ever after' in numerous other ways, a new man - wrong; business - wrong; sell the house and invest - wrong; more business ideas - wrong; maybe something creative - wrong!!!! How many 'wrong' decisions can a girl make!

After a decade or so insights started to appear, 'aha' moments were the most significant things in my life! Now I am totally at peace with 'being busy doing nothing'. I thought I needed to be something or someone, I thought my only significance was in what I have and do. Well when none of that got me anywhere I started to question what I wanted from identifying with a role. I wanted to be valued, to feel worthy, the security that came from having, I wanted to be respected, loved, noticed; again the list goes on. Then I started to pay attention to those that had, did and were something or someone, they didn't seem much happier than me! They were still chasing something to identify with or someone to make them happy. I realised the significance I was seeking was fleeting, it wasn't long before one had to seek something to be significant through, over and over and over!

After a lot of soul searching I now realise if I sit still for a moment, feel the sensations in my body, look out the window at the sky, trees and birds being, this is a reflection of my own significance. Without the sky, air, trees, birds etc. I wouldn't exist, then if I didn't exists I wouldn't be able to look at the birds, sky, air etc. and I wouldn't notice their significance. Yes all very cosmic but if you sit still and allow the moment to be as it is, you will realise that nothing has to happen for 'what is' to be of value; to be something so beautiful and amazing. The fact that it all exists is significant enough for me to be content with not really knowing who I am anymore. Not needing to identify with a world that mostly looks like it has gone insane. Not needing to achieve anything in life other than appreciating the smell of a flower, seeing the beauty of a sunset, feeling the drops on my face of the first rain of summer.

I am not denying the creative prompts or a desire to experience oneself in life through something, that is great, that is the call of 'Source' as Abraham/Hicks would say. It is when we are seeking an identity through what is outside of ourselves that we can come unstuck; lose confidence in who we are; when that creative prompt stops for a while and we diminish our self worth in the eyes of the world. When we stop getting the buzz from the process and start needing the acknowledgment through achievement. That is when we have lost sight of our true purpose in life.

For me the true purpose of life is to live in joy, no matter what I am doing, being or having. To celebrate the fact that I exist on this beautiful planet and can see all these other expressions of 'source' energy that are all unique in their own expression of 'life' or existence. To be open to what comes next, knowing it is all perfect, (you) will never get it done and there is nowhere to get. Enjoy!!!!

Great quote and pic by 'Rasha'

It's Not Personal, it's Universal!!!???

For me, right now, I view everything as significant to my growth, or rather, an opportunity to move beyond a pattern or dis-functional belief. I know I have taken something personal when I have a negative reaction. I was talking to some beautiful young woman (one being my daughter) the other day and I had one of those 'aha' moments. I realised that if I react to a situation or person negatively I am releasing some old emotional 'stuff'; I realised if I was truly in a loving space there is no way I could have negative thoughts or responses about another, or blame them for what they said or did. I believe when I get to the stage of not needing to change the 'other' or take personally an other's process I will have let go off past emotional baggage. I will be able to be with an other's process and feeling nothing but allowing and acceptance; I wouldn't need to blame, punish or reject; I wouldn't feel hurt or rejected by their processing.

Just the same as I wouldn't like to think I am being punished or blamed or rejected for my unconscious behavior towards others that have crossed my path. I have done and said some terrible things to the people I love, from a place of pain. If I reflect on these times in the past, which I rarely do, I almost felt a bit insane. The parts of me that were inflicting pain felt pain. As Abraham/Hicks says "nobody that is in their true power could ever inflict pain on a fellow human being", or words to that effect. I can look back on things I have done in my past and wondered 'what was I thinking'; some things I have no relationship to at all 'now' and have no idea where those actions were coming from. If I could go back in time I would never do or say what I said to hurt others and yes I may still be doing this to others now and my intention now would be to put some space between me and an other's pain body; now it may be more like self protection and yes perhaps in the past it was self protection also. The difference with now is I am so much more aware of what I am feeling and can accept responsibility for what I am feeling and I don't need to have bad thoughts towards the so called 'perpetrator'. I can even see how perhaps my behavior led me to put myself in such a situation; I can diffuse my emotions enough to be allowing in the moment, yes it is a skill that takes some practice but it is achievable. I can allow myself to fail as well and get taken over by my reactions or emotions.

I can accept that I am a 'universal being' in the process of becoming more; I can accept that everyone else is a 'universal being' in the process of becoming more. All those so called 'awful' moments in my life have made me a better person, well I think so and I am pretty sure those who love me would say the same and they are the only opinions that really count to me. I can get it wrong and still feel connected to something bigger because everything is an opportunity to be more loving towards 'self' and 'other'.

Inspirational thoughts and image by 'Rasha'.

Change your vibration (response), not the situation

So life exists in the moment, this being established, I am presenting the belief that what I may react to in the moment was unfinished business from the past. What I mean by this is when we are young we are usually dependent on others for our well being; we are not necessarily empowered in respect to our decisions about our likes and dislikes, usually we are told what to think, feel and do by adults and other more dominant children. It is only natural that at times we were not happy about these choices others were making for us. We mostly felt either unhappy, angry, dis-empowered, bullied etc. etc., the list goes on. Many belief systems go on to say these memories or beliefs I took on as a child are formed into patterns and we just go on repeating these modes of behaviour for the rest of our lives. Father/mother stuff with our partners, authority issues with the establishment, just to name a couple!

This is what I am calling 'unfinished business'. So in the moment I am reacting or projecting onto others and my circumstances from the same place, I reacted to, all those years ago when I was a child. I just keep repeating these scenarios over and over. These are not the same circumstances, I have grown up for one, I can choose a different response but......... only if I am aware of the pattern, the feeling of being dis-empowered in the present, the feeling that my buttons are being pushed; I then get to choose how I respond to this. Yes, like we have heard before, it all takes practice; accepting responsibility for what I am now creating in my life.

I would like to take this one step further and say that present upsets are an opportunity to release the past. That there is absolutely nothing wrong with reacting in the moment, it is necessary to release past hurts and old outdated beliefs. What we do have to pay attention to is when we then project those past responses onto the person or present situation. When we become unconscious to what we are experiencing in the moment. Sometimes we may need to process this in the privacy of our own thoughts and feelings, or become aware of what is going on when we have time to reflect.

My own investigation has lead me to see the biggest issue we may be dealing with is insecurity. Now it is easy to see in life nothing outside of ourselves can make us secure. You only have to watch the news to know nothing can make us secure. The only constant in life is change, it is inevitable in every area of our lives. We loose loved ones, we loose jobs, we loose homes, friends, parents, again the list goes on. How do we feel secure in an ever changing, insecure existence? Well I put my trust in a higher source, the only thing that makes sense to me. I am doing this now but I have spent decades trying to make my life secure. The more I tried the worse it got. Now Abraham/Hicks would call this "going upstream" and they go on to say "nothing you want is upstream". So this is one indicator that you are making life more difficult; if you are trying to make something happen, you can feel that it is hard; you feel frustrated, angry and upset because no one or thing is doing what you want it to do to make you feel secure.

Now I am proposing you change your vibration or response, not the situation or person you are trying to change or resist. Just like 7 of 9 and the Borg from Star Trek Voyager says "resistance is futile". No need to resist 'what is', allow yourself to feel the emotions and then you can change how you respond to the 'upsets' of life.

So to summerise, we are reacting to something or someone in the present, this is an opportunity to release some past emotion or a false belief we formed, then we have affected the outcome of our future. When we let go of a past pattern we become empowered, this creates a new vibration in the moment that effects what appears in our future.

Some of the things I have changed for myself. I now have a fantastic hairdresser; I now have a fantastic mechanic; I no longer attract dis-functional relationships, I could make a few changes in the ones I have and for now resistance is futile!!?? I have more than enough money to pay my bills, I drive a great little car, I live in a beautiful house, I have a job that I love to go to. My life is far from perfect and I do notice how much easier my life is since I have stopped going upstream, since I stopped resisting 'what is'. I am happy because it feels good to be happy, not because I need more 'stuff' in my life or I am waiting for things to get better to feel good. My life is now, I want the best for my 'now', so I make everything 'right'.

What is on your list of what is working in your life right now? What are you resisting and can you see a relationship to your past, in this.

Beautiful quote and image from Rasha author of 'Oneness', one of the best books I have ever read.

The Art of Selfishness

Recently I was given a book to read 'The Art of Selfishness'. Also Abraham/Hicks talks about being "selfish like a cat", initially when I heard these concepts I must admit I had a reaction; like you might be having to these ideas of being selfish or in other words 'self interested'. Upon further investigation I started to gain a better understanding, it is about talking care of yourself, accepting responsibility for ones choices and minding your own business.

Only I can know my experience or reactions in life. Only I can know what I need to feel loved and happy. So for me it makes sense that I make requests from this place. It makes sense that I make my decisions, either good or bad to gain a better understanding of what floats my boat. It makes sense that I communicate what I am feeling in relationship to others.

This topic to me is related to earlier discussions on 'everything has a purpose'. When we are young we are constantly told what to do, what to like, how to feel and what to think. We start to loose site of what we want and even how we feel about life and the circumstances in it. There is a potential to loose a sense of purpose. We are doing careers that are influenced by parents or society, as worthwhile or based on a good income. We are so influenced by being a good child, partner, parent, friend, work college that we loose a sense of self or what we enjoy to do or experience in life. We may put the wellbeing or feelings of others ahead of ourselves.

Now this is a pretty normal way to live our lives, otherwise we would be labeled as selfish. Heaven forbid we are selfish or self motivated. It is a word none of us want to be considered as. Well when I started to really look at my life and ask myself what is this all about, why do I feel depressed and unmotivated. What is my purpose in all of this, I started to see a pattern of needing people to approve of me and what I was 'doing' with my life. I saw I was presenting an image or 'trying' to appear like I had something going on. Like my life counted for something, I wanted to be an achiever or wealthy or creative. I needed a label that others approved of! I had to provide well for those that were dependent on me, until the cracks started to appear. Until I started to loose interest in everything in life; until I felt so inadequate there we nowhere else to go but up! I started to loose everything I valued - home, relationships, lively hood.

One day it felt like I just woke up to the fact that I had nothing to offer anyone else, I was struggling to take care of myself, let alone having others that needed me to take care of their needs. I fumbled along, feeling guilty and worthless for many years. Then I started to hear these new concepts; 'selfish like a cat', 'self interested', 'self loving', 'putting myself first'. I realised that if I didn't take care of me first there would be nothing for me to offer anyone else.

I started to do things differently, I started to check in with how I felt about others expectations of me. I started to hear my judgements of myself and others that I considered 'selfish'. I think I envied the selfish people of this world, they seemed to get what they needed while I felt tired and inadequate. Life started to get easier, I stopped caring what others felt about me; I didn't have much energy left to care! I started to see things a lot clearer, I gained some insights that seemed new to me. Life started to make more sense, a purpose was starting to shape itself.

Now everything seems easier, I feel happier, I enjoy the company of those I value more. I feel like I am more authentic. I feel like I have more to share and offer others. I only do for others when I am motivated. I rarely act from obligation and if I feel that old stuff creeping in I catch it and can change my attitude or gain some insight about myself or the relationship I am in with that particular person. Just information for me to re-choose who I am being in the moment.

If I don't live my life for me then I am dependent on others and my expectations of them and we all know where that takes us, to disappointment in my experience. I now realise I want others to be self interested because in my new found existence I don't want to have to second guess what others need, I want to live in a world full of people that are self interested enough to make request for what they want and I am self interested enough to know whether I value them enough to say yes.

I don't always know the purpose of what is appearing but I can be allowing enough of 'what is' to 'allow' it to be revealed to me, I don't have to have the answers to it all. I feel more connected to life now, can't really explain what that means other than there is a thread of excitement that starts in my belly, goes up to my heart and is registered in my head as "it's all good and getting better". Go on eat that last piece of chocolate and enjoy only considering yourself in that moment!

Beautiful pictures and quotes from Rasha/Oneness.

Focus and experience!!!???

This word focus seems to have some meaning and relevance for me lately. My focus is what appears in my life, what is happening, where I am. When I look at 'what is' I am now discovering it is only what I have been focusing on or putting my attention on. One of my favourite sayings lately is "that I am not setting everything in cement". I see what I see, I experience what is appearing or what I have been focusing on in the past, which could be 1 minute ago or 1 year ago, I decide how I feel about it now or I gauge my reaction to what I am seeing and 'I' choose to refocus. I get to decide if this is where I am at now; I get to decide if this is working for me now. In the past I may have taken a lot of notice of what others wanted for me, now I see I am the captain of my ship!

Recently I saw the movie 'Inception'. I could relate to what I considered to be powerful for metaphors. One reference was the power of the emotional bond between a child and parent, and how this can be used to form thoughts or beliefs in the child that will effect their actions. This, to me, is called conditioning. Another reference was made to our projections being people and events. I came out wondering if I am the dream of my soul or non-physical self, just like I am the dreamer of my dreams, which is what the movie is about.

Lately I have been using my dreams to solve things in my life. Again the flat mate. Before she left for the second time, I realised things weren't quite right between us. Before going to sleep I requested that the bond that was keeping us from moving on from each other be broken, or what needed to be solved between us to happen in my dream. Well I had a dream she was spooning me in my bed, feeling horrified about this experience I turned around and yelled at her to get out. I woke up going wow powerful stuff and that evening she informed me she was still panicked about money and needed to move into the house she had decided to move into 2 weeks before. I was amazed at the power of what happened with my request, very powerful stuff.

The reason I am mentioning this is if we do have so much power over creating through the dream state, and I reckon we have that same power in our daily lives that we are not exercising! This was true for me, yes you may say it was a coincidence, personally I don't believe in coincidences; I like to believe I live my life on purpose, doesn't mean I have control over it all. I believe if I keep focused on what I want, when I know what that is, life will orchestrate the details for it to happen. I believe I have lots of tools at my disposal to support this I just need to utalise them!

What do you want your dream life to be. Do you want to keep riding on the ghost train (which was fun by the way) or are you ready to create a different dream. Personally I am now deciding to have a ride on the joy bus, what about you!!??

Beautiful picture and quote by Rasha/Oneness.

Some thoughts on 'creating'.

Life gives us contrast and the purpose of contrast for me and according to Abraham/Hicks is to clarify what you do want. Quite often we know what we do want from the contrast but we continue to give our attention to what we don't want. Now this can seem normal, the contrast is the bills need to be paid and you don't seem to have enough cash! The clarity from this situation is plenty of money.

Now we have established from many teachings that the Universe or Source is like a big xerox machine that has already 'printed out' or given us what we want. The contrast was the asking, not enough money is asking to be abundant. Step 2 is the universe gives us what we want but we have developed a habit of not trusting in the energy that creates worlds and we think we are supposed to worry ourselves into action to make the money that is needed to sustain our lives. I have done this for most of my life, my mother did it; in fact most people I know did this or are still doing this. They think that worrying or stressing gives you more. Why else would we do it?

Yes it is a habit that has been handed down from generation to generation. What works best for me is to let go. Let go of the worrying that there isn't an answer to my problems, letting go of trying to control every little detail of what it is I want. Let go and 'let God' like we have already discussed. Now this is Step 3 part of the equation.

So how do I know I have let go - what does letting go feel like. You feel a level of peace emotionally and this is then felt physically, my body feels more relaxed. Now there are many ways you can create this, meditation is one way. For me I like the Eckhart Tolle way of feeling the energy in my body, putting my attention on my physical body, feeling the areas of tightness, dis-ease in my body. It is hard to think clearly in a state of worry; then I focus my attention on my body, my mind lets go, then some clear thoughts seem to just pop in my head. I have had some amazing results with this state of being; recently I was in a tussle with my flat mate and suddenly, almost involuntarily, I felt my emotions in my body, became still in my mind and was able to clearly state what was true for me, without any charge or anger towards my flat mate! And I got exactly what I wanted by the way without making anyone do anything.

Recently I heard a young man talk about how the mind and the ego dominated thinking has to make sense of what is happening around us. Sometimes when we are close to an issue it is impossible to make sense of it and the world and what happens in it. In my experience higher thinking or connection to something greater is the only thing that gives life and what happens in it a higher purpose. It is like getting into an airplane and looking down at it all, giving something some distance or perspective is the only way to make sense. Beliefs help to make sense of a world we don't seem to be able to control.

I like to do processes that give me a bit of distance from the issue, give me a different perspective. Like feeling my emotional body and releasing the trapped emotion; doing an Abraham/Hicks focus wheel where you put the desire you have that was created from the contrast, in a circle in the center of your page, then you put 12 circles around this circle big enough to put a short sentence about thoughts that might bring you closer vibrationally to that desired outcome. This is great and I mostly do this in my mind these days, like pivoting away from what is bothering me and looking at some higher thoughts as to why I would unconsciously create this reality, that then leads me to imagined solutions! A lot of fun really!

A bit out there but lately I have been having a real sense that I am far far more than what I appear and that the identity or personality that is Sharne is just a small focused portion of the expanded me, a bit like when I am looking at something like a flower or a bug with awe it seems like the only thing that exists in that moment. I believe that when I feel totally connected to most of my life and the events and even objects in it I am contributing to those other portions of me and expanding them and they are contributing to something bigger and bigger and bigger. I believe I don't need to know what that bigness is or who I really am, it is totally irrelevant to the rest of me if I know it or not, just by being at peace with this moment and not being afraid of what is coming I am making a huge contribution to the whole. The whole that is the planet, the whole that is other people, the whole that is the universe, physical and non physical. This makes me feel significant in a way I have never felt before, in a non achiever, non ego way. I don't have to prove anything to anyone. I am significant in my contribution to the greater good just by allowing myself to be happy! I told you it was out there!!!! Right now in this moment I love all of my projections good, bad, small, large, objects, people, emotions. All of 'IT'. xxxxxxxxxxxx

Beautiful images and quotes by Rasha/Onesness