It's Not Personal, it's Universal!!!???

For me, right now, I view everything as significant to my growth, or rather, an opportunity to move beyond a pattern or dis-functional belief. I know I have taken something personal when I have a negative reaction. I was talking to some beautiful young woman (one being my daughter) the other day and I had one of those 'aha' moments. I realised that if I react to a situation or person negatively I am releasing some old emotional 'stuff'; I realised if I was truly in a loving space there is no way I could have negative thoughts or responses about another, or blame them for what they said or did. I believe when I get to the stage of not needing to change the 'other' or take personally an other's process I will have let go off past emotional baggage. I will be able to be with an other's process and feeling nothing but allowing and acceptance; I wouldn't need to blame, punish or reject; I wouldn't feel hurt or rejected by their processing.

Just the same as I wouldn't like to think I am being punished or blamed or rejected for my unconscious behavior towards others that have crossed my path. I have done and said some terrible things to the people I love, from a place of pain. If I reflect on these times in the past, which I rarely do, I almost felt a bit insane. The parts of me that were inflicting pain felt pain. As Abraham/Hicks says "nobody that is in their true power could ever inflict pain on a fellow human being", or words to that effect. I can look back on things I have done in my past and wondered 'what was I thinking'; some things I have no relationship to at all 'now' and have no idea where those actions were coming from. If I could go back in time I would never do or say what I said to hurt others and yes I may still be doing this to others now and my intention now would be to put some space between me and an other's pain body; now it may be more like self protection and yes perhaps in the past it was self protection also. The difference with now is I am so much more aware of what I am feeling and can accept responsibility for what I am feeling and I don't need to have bad thoughts towards the so called 'perpetrator'. I can even see how perhaps my behavior led me to put myself in such a situation; I can diffuse my emotions enough to be allowing in the moment, yes it is a skill that takes some practice but it is achievable. I can allow myself to fail as well and get taken over by my reactions or emotions.

I can accept that I am a 'universal being' in the process of becoming more; I can accept that everyone else is a 'universal being' in the process of becoming more. All those so called 'awful' moments in my life have made me a better person, well I think so and I am pretty sure those who love me would say the same and they are the only opinions that really count to me. I can get it wrong and still feel connected to something bigger because everything is an opportunity to be more loving towards 'self' and 'other'.

Inspirational thoughts and image by 'Rasha'.

Change your vibration (response), not the situation

So life exists in the moment, this being established, I am presenting the belief that what I may react to in the moment was unfinished business from the past. What I mean by this is when we are young we are usually dependent on others for our well being; we are not necessarily empowered in respect to our decisions about our likes and dislikes, usually we are told what to think, feel and do by adults and other more dominant children. It is only natural that at times we were not happy about these choices others were making for us. We mostly felt either unhappy, angry, dis-empowered, bullied etc. etc., the list goes on. Many belief systems go on to say these memories or beliefs I took on as a child are formed into patterns and we just go on repeating these modes of behaviour for the rest of our lives. Father/mother stuff with our partners, authority issues with the establishment, just to name a couple!

This is what I am calling 'unfinished business'. So in the moment I am reacting or projecting onto others and my circumstances from the same place, I reacted to, all those years ago when I was a child. I just keep repeating these scenarios over and over. These are not the same circumstances, I have grown up for one, I can choose a different response but......... only if I am aware of the pattern, the feeling of being dis-empowered in the present, the feeling that my buttons are being pushed; I then get to choose how I respond to this. Yes, like we have heard before, it all takes practice; accepting responsibility for what I am now creating in my life.

I would like to take this one step further and say that present upsets are an opportunity to release the past. That there is absolutely nothing wrong with reacting in the moment, it is necessary to release past hurts and old outdated beliefs. What we do have to pay attention to is when we then project those past responses onto the person or present situation. When we become unconscious to what we are experiencing in the moment. Sometimes we may need to process this in the privacy of our own thoughts and feelings, or become aware of what is going on when we have time to reflect.

My own investigation has lead me to see the biggest issue we may be dealing with is insecurity. Now it is easy to see in life nothing outside of ourselves can make us secure. You only have to watch the news to know nothing can make us secure. The only constant in life is change, it is inevitable in every area of our lives. We loose loved ones, we loose jobs, we loose homes, friends, parents, again the list goes on. How do we feel secure in an ever changing, insecure existence? Well I put my trust in a higher source, the only thing that makes sense to me. I am doing this now but I have spent decades trying to make my life secure. The more I tried the worse it got. Now Abraham/Hicks would call this "going upstream" and they go on to say "nothing you want is upstream". So this is one indicator that you are making life more difficult; if you are trying to make something happen, you can feel that it is hard; you feel frustrated, angry and upset because no one or thing is doing what you want it to do to make you feel secure.

Now I am proposing you change your vibration or response, not the situation or person you are trying to change or resist. Just like 7 of 9 and the Borg from Star Trek Voyager says "resistance is futile". No need to resist 'what is', allow yourself to feel the emotions and then you can change how you respond to the 'upsets' of life.

So to summerise, we are reacting to something or someone in the present, this is an opportunity to release some past emotion or a false belief we formed, then we have affected the outcome of our future. When we let go of a past pattern we become empowered, this creates a new vibration in the moment that effects what appears in our future.

Some of the things I have changed for myself. I now have a fantastic hairdresser; I now have a fantastic mechanic; I no longer attract dis-functional relationships, I could make a few changes in the ones I have and for now resistance is futile!!?? I have more than enough money to pay my bills, I drive a great little car, I live in a beautiful house, I have a job that I love to go to. My life is far from perfect and I do notice how much easier my life is since I have stopped going upstream, since I stopped resisting 'what is'. I am happy because it feels good to be happy, not because I need more 'stuff' in my life or I am waiting for things to get better to feel good. My life is now, I want the best for my 'now', so I make everything 'right'.

What is on your list of what is working in your life right now? What are you resisting and can you see a relationship to your past, in this.

Beautiful quote and image from Rasha author of 'Oneness', one of the best books I have ever read.

The Art of Selfishness

Recently I was given a book to read 'The Art of Selfishness'. Also Abraham/Hicks talks about being "selfish like a cat", initially when I heard these concepts I must admit I had a reaction; like you might be having to these ideas of being selfish or in other words 'self interested'. Upon further investigation I started to gain a better understanding, it is about talking care of yourself, accepting responsibility for ones choices and minding your own business.

Only I can know my experience or reactions in life. Only I can know what I need to feel loved and happy. So for me it makes sense that I make requests from this place. It makes sense that I make my decisions, either good or bad to gain a better understanding of what floats my boat. It makes sense that I communicate what I am feeling in relationship to others.

This topic to me is related to earlier discussions on 'everything has a purpose'. When we are young we are constantly told what to do, what to like, how to feel and what to think. We start to loose site of what we want and even how we feel about life and the circumstances in it. There is a potential to loose a sense of purpose. We are doing careers that are influenced by parents or society, as worthwhile or based on a good income. We are so influenced by being a good child, partner, parent, friend, work college that we loose a sense of self or what we enjoy to do or experience in life. We may put the wellbeing or feelings of others ahead of ourselves.

Now this is a pretty normal way to live our lives, otherwise we would be labeled as selfish. Heaven forbid we are selfish or self motivated. It is a word none of us want to be considered as. Well when I started to really look at my life and ask myself what is this all about, why do I feel depressed and unmotivated. What is my purpose in all of this, I started to see a pattern of needing people to approve of me and what I was 'doing' with my life. I saw I was presenting an image or 'trying' to appear like I had something going on. Like my life counted for something, I wanted to be an achiever or wealthy or creative. I needed a label that others approved of! I had to provide well for those that were dependent on me, until the cracks started to appear. Until I started to loose interest in everything in life; until I felt so inadequate there we nowhere else to go but up! I started to loose everything I valued - home, relationships, lively hood.

One day it felt like I just woke up to the fact that I had nothing to offer anyone else, I was struggling to take care of myself, let alone having others that needed me to take care of their needs. I fumbled along, feeling guilty and worthless for many years. Then I started to hear these new concepts; 'selfish like a cat', 'self interested', 'self loving', 'putting myself first'. I realised that if I didn't take care of me first there would be nothing for me to offer anyone else.

I started to do things differently, I started to check in with how I felt about others expectations of me. I started to hear my judgements of myself and others that I considered 'selfish'. I think I envied the selfish people of this world, they seemed to get what they needed while I felt tired and inadequate. Life started to get easier, I stopped caring what others felt about me; I didn't have much energy left to care! I started to see things a lot clearer, I gained some insights that seemed new to me. Life started to make more sense, a purpose was starting to shape itself.

Now everything seems easier, I feel happier, I enjoy the company of those I value more. I feel like I am more authentic. I feel like I have more to share and offer others. I only do for others when I am motivated. I rarely act from obligation and if I feel that old stuff creeping in I catch it and can change my attitude or gain some insight about myself or the relationship I am in with that particular person. Just information for me to re-choose who I am being in the moment.

If I don't live my life for me then I am dependent on others and my expectations of them and we all know where that takes us, to disappointment in my experience. I now realise I want others to be self interested because in my new found existence I don't want to have to second guess what others need, I want to live in a world full of people that are self interested enough to make request for what they want and I am self interested enough to know whether I value them enough to say yes.

I don't always know the purpose of what is appearing but I can be allowing enough of 'what is' to 'allow' it to be revealed to me, I don't have to have the answers to it all. I feel more connected to life now, can't really explain what that means other than there is a thread of excitement that starts in my belly, goes up to my heart and is registered in my head as "it's all good and getting better". Go on eat that last piece of chocolate and enjoy only considering yourself in that moment!

Beautiful pictures and quotes from Rasha/Oneness.

Focus and experience!!!???

This word focus seems to have some meaning and relevance for me lately. My focus is what appears in my life, what is happening, where I am. When I look at 'what is' I am now discovering it is only what I have been focusing on or putting my attention on. One of my favourite sayings lately is "that I am not setting everything in cement". I see what I see, I experience what is appearing or what I have been focusing on in the past, which could be 1 minute ago or 1 year ago, I decide how I feel about it now or I gauge my reaction to what I am seeing and 'I' choose to refocus. I get to decide if this is where I am at now; I get to decide if this is working for me now. In the past I may have taken a lot of notice of what others wanted for me, now I see I am the captain of my ship!

Recently I saw the movie 'Inception'. I could relate to what I considered to be powerful for metaphors. One reference was the power of the emotional bond between a child and parent, and how this can be used to form thoughts or beliefs in the child that will effect their actions. This, to me, is called conditioning. Another reference was made to our projections being people and events. I came out wondering if I am the dream of my soul or non-physical self, just like I am the dreamer of my dreams, which is what the movie is about.

Lately I have been using my dreams to solve things in my life. Again the flat mate. Before she left for the second time, I realised things weren't quite right between us. Before going to sleep I requested that the bond that was keeping us from moving on from each other be broken, or what needed to be solved between us to happen in my dream. Well I had a dream she was spooning me in my bed, feeling horrified about this experience I turned around and yelled at her to get out. I woke up going wow powerful stuff and that evening she informed me she was still panicked about money and needed to move into the house she had decided to move into 2 weeks before. I was amazed at the power of what happened with my request, very powerful stuff.

The reason I am mentioning this is if we do have so much power over creating through the dream state, and I reckon we have that same power in our daily lives that we are not exercising! This was true for me, yes you may say it was a coincidence, personally I don't believe in coincidences; I like to believe I live my life on purpose, doesn't mean I have control over it all. I believe if I keep focused on what I want, when I know what that is, life will orchestrate the details for it to happen. I believe I have lots of tools at my disposal to support this I just need to utalise them!

What do you want your dream life to be. Do you want to keep riding on the ghost train (which was fun by the way) or are you ready to create a different dream. Personally I am now deciding to have a ride on the joy bus, what about you!!??

Beautiful picture and quote by Rasha/Oneness.

Some thoughts on 'creating'.

Life gives us contrast and the purpose of contrast for me and according to Abraham/Hicks is to clarify what you do want. Quite often we know what we do want from the contrast but we continue to give our attention to what we don't want. Now this can seem normal, the contrast is the bills need to be paid and you don't seem to have enough cash! The clarity from this situation is plenty of money.

Now we have established from many teachings that the Universe or Source is like a big xerox machine that has already 'printed out' or given us what we want. The contrast was the asking, not enough money is asking to be abundant. Step 2 is the universe gives us what we want but we have developed a habit of not trusting in the energy that creates worlds and we think we are supposed to worry ourselves into action to make the money that is needed to sustain our lives. I have done this for most of my life, my mother did it; in fact most people I know did this or are still doing this. They think that worrying or stressing gives you more. Why else would we do it?

Yes it is a habit that has been handed down from generation to generation. What works best for me is to let go. Let go of the worrying that there isn't an answer to my problems, letting go of trying to control every little detail of what it is I want. Let go and 'let God' like we have already discussed. Now this is Step 3 part of the equation.

So how do I know I have let go - what does letting go feel like. You feel a level of peace emotionally and this is then felt physically, my body feels more relaxed. Now there are many ways you can create this, meditation is one way. For me I like the Eckhart Tolle way of feeling the energy in my body, putting my attention on my physical body, feeling the areas of tightness, dis-ease in my body. It is hard to think clearly in a state of worry; then I focus my attention on my body, my mind lets go, then some clear thoughts seem to just pop in my head. I have had some amazing results with this state of being; recently I was in a tussle with my flat mate and suddenly, almost involuntarily, I felt my emotions in my body, became still in my mind and was able to clearly state what was true for me, without any charge or anger towards my flat mate! And I got exactly what I wanted by the way without making anyone do anything.

Recently I heard a young man talk about how the mind and the ego dominated thinking has to make sense of what is happening around us. Sometimes when we are close to an issue it is impossible to make sense of it and the world and what happens in it. In my experience higher thinking or connection to something greater is the only thing that gives life and what happens in it a higher purpose. It is like getting into an airplane and looking down at it all, giving something some distance or perspective is the only way to make sense. Beliefs help to make sense of a world we don't seem to be able to control.

I like to do processes that give me a bit of distance from the issue, give me a different perspective. Like feeling my emotional body and releasing the trapped emotion; doing an Abraham/Hicks focus wheel where you put the desire you have that was created from the contrast, in a circle in the center of your page, then you put 12 circles around this circle big enough to put a short sentence about thoughts that might bring you closer vibrationally to that desired outcome. This is great and I mostly do this in my mind these days, like pivoting away from what is bothering me and looking at some higher thoughts as to why I would unconsciously create this reality, that then leads me to imagined solutions! A lot of fun really!

A bit out there but lately I have been having a real sense that I am far far more than what I appear and that the identity or personality that is Sharne is just a small focused portion of the expanded me, a bit like when I am looking at something like a flower or a bug with awe it seems like the only thing that exists in that moment. I believe that when I feel totally connected to most of my life and the events and even objects in it I am contributing to those other portions of me and expanding them and they are contributing to something bigger and bigger and bigger. I believe I don't need to know what that bigness is or who I really am, it is totally irrelevant to the rest of me if I know it or not, just by being at peace with this moment and not being afraid of what is coming I am making a huge contribution to the whole. The whole that is the planet, the whole that is other people, the whole that is the universe, physical and non physical. This makes me feel significant in a way I have never felt before, in a non achiever, non ego way. I don't have to prove anything to anyone. I am significant in my contribution to the greater good just by allowing myself to be happy! I told you it was out there!!!! Right now in this moment I love all of my projections good, bad, small, large, objects, people, emotions. All of 'IT'. xxxxxxxxxxxx

Beautiful images and quotes by Rasha/Onesness

You can't get there from here!

It seems to me a natural part of life is to be want to be somewhere, arrive and not long after want to be somewhere else. Now Abraham/Hicks calls this contrast. Everything in life at some point is what has been asked for; as we have stated before, either consciously or unconsciously. So when we arrive at where we have asked to be there is some kind of reaction to where we are. Either we are happy in the moment to be here or we definitely know we want to be somewhere else. So when we know we want to be somewhere else this is the contrast. This is when we know we no longer fully enjoy where we are and it is a natural part of existence to move on from 'here' to 'there'.

Now Abraham/Hicks says "You can't get there from here", and what that means to me is when I have decided I want to change where I am because I am no longer enjoying the 'here', either a job, a living situation, a relationship, a friendship or any number of situations, I can't get to 'there' until I change the feelings I have developed over being 'here'. So we have established it is a perfectly natural state for a human to decide that a situation no longer serves us any more, we aren't enjoy or relating to the situations we find ourselves in and sometimes we are feeling 'unhappy' about where we are. Ready to move on, well we have to change how we experience 'here', we have to be feeling better about moving on without resisting where we are right now. And just like going from here to there, steps are involved in that choice. Something as simple as I am tired and I want to go home to bed means you have to take the steps to get to bed, from the lounge to the bathroom, from bathroom to bedroom, put on pajamas, make the bed. You get the messages, some steps need to be taken to get from 'here' to 'there'.

So making where we are wrong may be ok for an initial reaction but at some stage one of the steps that may need to be taken is to feel good about where you are going, knowing that it is natural to move on from where you are and at some point feeling appreciation for the 'here' that got you to decide you now want to be 'there'. Yes new choices have to be made, change is inevitable and aligning yourself with your new choice is the best way to set the universe into motion for you to receive your new set of circumstances. Feeling some form of appreciation for where you are is very powerful and puts you instantly in alignment to where you want to be. It may take some time to emotionally get yourself into a state of appreciation. Sometimes the feeling of anger about where you are needs to turn into revenge, then revenge will need to turn into hope, then into optomism and then you may be ready to appreciate the circumstances that lead you to being ready for the change that is about to happen.

Knowing that change is the only constant in life. Growth is inevitable, we will outgrow people, places and circumstances; this is a perfectly natural human experience. Yes grieving a loss may be part of the steps that need to be taken. We are beings that have a life force flowing though us and if we don't heed the call that comes from within, that is when the life force feels dead, we have no energy to make changes in our life. We are always moving toward something better, that is inevitable. It's when we feel the fear of change and give it too much attention; allow the fear to stop us from moving forward, now that is when the life force within us feels like it has died.

We are training ourselves to move with the bigger part of ourselves, to connect with our 'source' and this takes effort and focus. There are no short cuts to the focus that will lead us to our hearts desires, we need to be aware of what we are feeling. At some point this effort becomes effortless, you find yourself feeling better a lot of the time; you see yourself unflappable; you no longer have the urge to change others in your life; you are seeing the 'good' things in life outweigh the so called 'bad'.

Never loose heart you are closer than you realise! You are loved by many whether you hear their voices or see their angelic faces or feel there hugs, they are there cheering you on when you do something as little as lift your head up and smile. Love and blessings on you all and your journey to be a delicious, loving being!

Does everything have a purpose?

Life's challenges, do they have a purpose? Well for me it is going back to the idea of beliefs and how they support me in life, or a thought, or an idea about life that no longer serves me, and I am ready to let go of it.

So yes I believe everything in life has a purpose, but it is the purpose that I put on it, not something obscure that is happening to me; that has some meaning but I have no idea what it is. I believe I create my reality, this belief serves me in being in some kind of control in my life. Not the traditional sense of control but a sense of empowerment around what happens in my life. If I am the creator of my reality through my beliefs, thoughts and actions, then I am not a victim and this is where I can control how I view what is happening in my life, either changing my thoughts or beliefs to create a change in my circumstances. Sometimes an action needs to be taken when I have some clarity around 'the purpose' of this event.

I like to believe the purpose for certain circumstances in my life is for me to grow as a being. To expand my awareness of self, to see myself as more rather than less, which is how we can at times view ourselves in relationship to life's challenges. At these times of great challenge it is often hard to see the purpose of such events and see 'I' have created this situation to see myself as more. So in these times I personally need lots of reminds of who I really am. I need to examine my thoughts and reactions to the contrast in my life. I spend time in quiet contemplation, I listen to the teachings of Abraham/Hicks and Eckhart Tolle; this all helps me feel my way into some clarity around my challenging situation and helps me take some expansive action. What I mean by expansive action is perhaps acting differently to how I have in the past. For example I am wanting to live on my own now that my flat mate is moving out, I don't have a clear path to this experience; I have an ad in the paper and I am going to act from place of abundance, not a place of needing someone to help pay the rent. I am going to communicate to people who ring up from an empowered space of what I want from a flat mate, not like I need you to rent my room what do you want. For me this is the purpose of what has 'happened'. For me to value myself in relationship to a future flat mate, because guess what, that is the vibration I am going to have to come from if I want to be able to afford to live on my own. I am going to have to feel abundant, feel self value, feel empowered. That is the purpose I am assigning to an experience that challenges my circumstances of what could appear to be 'lack' of a room mate.